What’s the key to a relationship? How have your past relationships molded you? What do you think is the most important thing to have in a relationship?
Well to me the key to a relationship is communication. There can't be any relationship if you guys don't talk things through and fight for things. How can you know things about you partner if you don't communicate your favorite things. How are they supposed to know the things you like. How are they supposed to know you. From my past relationships I've learned if you really don't communicate the way you feel then things will never work out for you both in the end. A relationship takes time and work and you have to be willing to fight for the person you love no matter what happens.
I fell in love with girl. I never have been good with relationships, but I knew I had to give this one everything I had. I never tried before, but with this girl I knew I wanted to be with her. I ended up coming between her and God, a lot. I knew I was the problem. I wasn’t used to thinking about others and their feelings and at this point I know I’m just making excuses. I didn’t understand as much as I thought I did. I know now I need to consider many things. My feelings still remain, but I need to grow myself before I grow with someone.
I was in a relationship with this boy, and we dated for a while and ended up breaking up. The one thing I learned and took out of that relationship was that you need to love someone no matter what happens. When you get married, you tell your future spouse, "For better or for worse," if you can't handle the worst then do you really love them? When you love someone you love them for every flaw that they have. Even if they hurt you, if they left you right when you thought you needed them the most- you need to love them relentless of the circumstance. Loving someone is the most important thing in a relationship to me, loving and forgiving them relentless of what they've done. Even if it's a lovey-dovey relationship or just a friendship, if there's no love there it's not going to work. Jesus wants us to love everyone, it's what we're called to do. Everything can be fixed and mended if you just take the time out of your day to try to save and treasure what you were given.
The key to a relationship is trust. Trust is what can make or break a relationship, if you can't tell them everything or trust their actions or them as a person you will probably end up on a bumpy road. Past relationships have opened my eyes. I've noticed the difference between having standards, knowing I care about a person, rather then just having a relationship to want one. I've also learned the value of self importance. No one is perfect and if they are tearing you down and make you feel inferior or are leaving you in the dust, I promise you they are not the one. I've also learned forgive vs forget. People can apologize to you, but do they actually mean it? People who love one another learn to forgive and to move on and try to repair, but not everything can be fixed. If you went through a tough relationship and you guys are complete strangers now, they didn't care and they just cared about themselves. Relationships don't just involve your heart, but the other persons as well so remember that when making decisions. Communicate with each other and be honest, trust me lying makes things worst. Leave the past in the past (including exes), have time for one another, know that having arguments is normal that means you still care enough to fight for your relationship. Don't change the person, if you want that and you don't love there flaws and perfection then you don't love them but rather just the idea of what they could be. Don't stay or go out with a person just because you feel obligated to. Become best friends, go on adventures, love unconditionally. Most importantly, Love yourself. How can you love another without loving yourself. Learn how to be happy because then they will be an addition to your happiness and not your only source. With that , you will set the world on fire.
Key to a relationship is having God at the center of the relationship. Because once you are in a relationship you two become one, just like marriage just a less bit serious. Whatever decision the other partner makes it affects the other person in the relationship. So having God at the center of every decision and every word coming out of your mouth. Also both know where the love comes from... God. My past relationships have molded me to become a much more God-confident person. Throughout the relationship I "wasn't enough" I wasn't like "this person" and that obviously affected my self esteem. But I learned to not depend my happiness on others and to not depend my worth and value on others. Because people will talk b.s about you and we grow to listen to it, but I learned to block that person's lies and listen to what God has called me in His word. Overall I learned to be more confident, independent, and forgiving. Despite what occurred in that relationship I don't regret it because it has taught me so much and it has brought me to become the person I am today. God is the essential part of every relationship!!!! If you don't have Him your relationship will go through much more turbulence rather than when you do have Him. I'm not saying having Him in the relationship will make you not have turbulence... it will. But it will be so much easier to overcome them because both people in the relationship have their eyes fixed on God and look towards Him to surrender (give it all to him) and for times of trouble.
There are many "keys" to a relationship. Actually, in all relationships. In my opinion, a relationship, of any kind, should have the key of truth. The truth of Jesus; that God is in account of that relationship and it is a relationship that is bringing him glory through your growth in that relationship. My past relationship molded me in a way where I would rather not be; mentally and spiritually. But even with that, God is able to do an even greater change in me, and turn into good. Not belittling the obstacles from the past, present, or future that happened, are happening, and will happen; but the way my past relationships have molded me, allows me and gives me the opportunity to choose faith and trust with God through the relationships I have now. They have molded me to know what a relationship is and what a relationship is not; of any kind. Most important "thing" to have in any kind of relationship, is God. Why? God is love. Love is God. So what I am saying is the most important thing is love. Love (God) in that relationship. Why put effort into a relationship that does not include what it needs most and what it can do most for the people involved in it and provides for others to see and reflect on. Any kind of relationship should be one that helps others and allows others to see when GOD is the center, when LOVE is the center of the relationship, no evil shall prosper against it to tear it apart. To love one another as God loves oneself, unconditionally. The verse that is put into practice with all relationships is 1 Corinthians 13:4-7. God (love) is the most important "thing" in ANY relationship. Blessings to all
Scriptures about relationships
1 Corinthians 13:4-7 ESV
Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
2 Corinthians 6:14 ESV
Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?
1 Peter 4:8 ESV
Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins.
Romans 12:9-10 ESV
Let love be genuine. Abhor what is evil; hold fast to what is good. Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor.
2 Timothy 2:22 ESV
So flee youthful passions and pursue righteousness, faith, love, and peace, along with those who call on the Lord from a pure heart.
Matthew 19:6 ESV
So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.”
I know we’ve all felt this, we’ve felt the pressure of having to be perfect. You need to have perfect hair, perfect skin, a perfect wardrobe and body. Everything about your life needed to be perfect in order for it to be entertaining and accepted by society. When was the last time that you’ve watched a video on YouTube or someone crying and having a mental break down? When have you watched a video without someone wearing makeup or making sure their hair looks perfect? I can probably tell you that the answer is never/almost rarely. What happened to people being genuine and true to themselves.
I started a YouTube channel back in 2016. My videos would get about 10-12 views, and I felt like I wasn’t doing good enough. I made my channel to tell people about God and what he’s been doing and what he is doing throughout my life. My videos then started getting lesser views, until I made a video called “What's on my iphone 7”, and my views skyrocketed. I was in shock, I felt completely loved that people loved my new video.
Now, looking back at it.. is YouTube just another trend? Everyone copies everyone else, and they follow what’s popular at the time to get views and likes their videos. Where are the youtubers who preach about God, and tell people that they don’t need to wear makeup to be beautiful. Where are the people who aren’t afraid to cry on camera and show their true emotions. Show them having a bad day. Show everyone what their life is actually like. These youtubers have little to no views, because people don’t want to watch this. If people do post videos of this, they’re being hated on, because it’s not “normal” in society to do something like that. On YouTube your life needs to be perfect, it needs to be flawless and trendy.. if it isn’t you don’t get any views.
People won’t watch you so they can hear the truth in life, they watch it so they can escape from reality. “Oh if I just looked like her or dyed my hair that color people will actually like me.” I know you’ve said that once or even thought about it.. be honest. This world is all about comparing yourself to others and trying to act like you have a perfect life. But no one is perfect, no one can constantly keep up with these stupid trends that the world is making.
Do you know what should be trending? JESUS. Go tell someone who he is, go tell the world. Spam videos telling people that they are loved just the way they are. They don’t need to be a picture perfect barbie, you can be broken and hurting and you are still relentlessly loved. Let’s make the name of Jesus trend. Tell people about him, wether it’s on snapchat, Instagram or a YouTube video. You don’t need to be perfect to spread the word of God. God uses the broken to heal.
I'm a huge fan of chicken nuggets, and enthusiastically excited about what God as in store for my life. My other half is currently in the Air Force, so a lot of blog posts will be about the military as of right now.
Incase no one told you today:
YOU ARE AMAZING
YOU ARE LOVED
YOU ARE ONE OF A KIND
YOU ARE SPECIAL
YOU ARE MAGNIFICENT
YOU ARE WANTED
YOU ARE A MASTERPIECE
YOU ARE WONDERFUL
YOU ARE JOYFUL
YOU ARE TALENTED
YOU ARE GREAT
YOU ARE FANTASTIC
YOU ARE A QUEEN
YOU ARE LOVED BY SOMEONE WHO MADE YOU
YOU ARE KIND
YOU ARE YOU, don't let anyone change that.