BMT = Basic Military Training
Every branch of the military has different names for their trainings. For example, the army's training is called basic combat training. Each branch has a different duration for their trainings, they range from 12-7.5 weeks. BMT usually lasts for about 7.5 weeks, which is the shortest out of all the branches. Which to my luck, Jeremy's training was about 8 weeks long.
How was it not being able to talk to your S.O. for a long time?
There's two emotions that I've been feeling ever since Jeremy left: happiness, sadness. It's a pretty straight forward answer. It's insanely crazy hearing from someone every single day to having no communication at all. So it was pretty heartbreaking not being able to talk to him, and being able to pick up the phone and tell him how everything was at the time. But I also couldn't be happier. This boy has been wanting to do this since I've met him, which we met Freshman year of high school, also he wanted to do this since he was a kid. Loving someone means supporting what they want to do- and that's exactly what I was forced to do, all honesty I think he should have been working at Starbucks so ya girl gets some free coffee, but it's okay I settled for him being in the AirForce.
Writing letters to your S.O. is the best feeling in the world, for you and them. Your recruit is going through so much during BMT, they don't have any TV's or newspapers, they're consistently getting yelled at by their MTIs, they have no communication with the outside world. All the recruits have are the letters that are handed out to them at the end of the day.
This is advice to anyone who knows someone already in BMT or if they're going to BMT.
- Whatever you include in your letter, make sure it's positive. Don't give your trainee bad news over a letter, it can probably wait until graduation. You don't want your trainee to be depressed and crying in BMT, it'll probably end up in them getting yelled at.
- MAKE SURE THE ENVELOPES TO YOUR LETTERS ARE WHITE! I remember buying such cute stationary that I was going to send out to Jeremy when he left. The envelope was teal and had polkadots on it. I had stuck stickers all over the back of them, and added doodles on it as well- this was the worst mistake of my life. Feel free to decorate the letters as much as possible, make it your own, maybe even add some stickers to it!
- Be yourself! The last thing your recruit will want is to hear from someone that doesn't sound like you. You don't have to be all cookie cutter and happy all the time! Tell them how you're feeling, tell them how your day went & that you're looking forward to seeing them again.
- TELL THEM YOU'RE PROUD OF THEM! I cannot stress this enough. Your recruit is being put through hell out there, and I honestly mean hell. They're getting yelled at every single day, their whole lifestyle has probably changed. Tell them that you're proud of them it'll make their day. Tell them that you love them and that you miss them. When they open that letter at the end of the day and they see that you're so proud of them and that you're rooting for them, this will probably make them work harder and thrive while they're at BMT.
What I learned from this experience.
It's been a year since Jeremy was in BMT, and I think that going through that whole experience was something our relationship totally needed. It helped mold him into what he is expected to be, and it helped me get ready for this whole journey. He's currently stationed overseas and it'll be a year in December since we've seen each other, and I think that BMT definitely set a path on how things were going to be while he was gone. I wasn't one of the lucky ones who lived near their training school so I got to see him for a few weeks during Christmas before he had to fly back to Texas. But BMT is what the name means, training. Not only does your recruit but everyone in the family's life changes within that moment.
How BMT can effect your relationships.
BMT can either break or make a relationship stronger. I think that it was needed in my relationship, we're high school sweethearts so we went from talking everyday to three phone calls in a couple of weeks.
If you're used to talking to each other everyday I would really recommend lessening that closer to BMT, to start getting used to the days to come.
You start to realize that the memories you guys have created were the best and you will crave to create more. When you start to get sad just remember that there were so many amazing memories you guys have and that it's not over yet (even though some days it feels like it is.)
I'm a huge fan of chicken nuggets, and enthusiastically excited about what God as in store for my life. My other half is currently in the Air Force, so a lot of blog posts will be about the military as of right now.
Incase no one told you today:
YOU ARE AMAZING
YOU ARE LOVED
YOU ARE ONE OF A KIND
YOU ARE SPECIAL
YOU ARE MAGNIFICENT
YOU ARE WANTED
YOU ARE A MASTERPIECE
YOU ARE WONDERFUL
YOU ARE JOYFUL
YOU ARE TALENTED
YOU ARE GREAT
YOU ARE FANTASTIC
YOU ARE A QUEEN
YOU ARE LOVED BY SOMEONE WHO MADE YOU
YOU ARE KIND
YOU ARE YOU, don't let anyone change that.